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December 20, 2010

Dear readers,

I’m sorry for the trouble but I’ve moved my blog (again!).  I’ve decided to streamline both sites and will now be permanently residing at Life In Progress (

Thanks and come visit me and my new site!  I’ve made it easy for you so just click here to be redirected!




It’s done!

December 17, 2010

First of all, I’m totally hi-fiving myself because I did this banner all on my own.  What you’re looking at folks, is the banner to my new site:  life… in progress. It took me a while to figure out a name that reflected me, my goings-on, my random drivel and my trials and tribulations of raising a hilarious toddler.

The good thing is that you get to see this banner that’s all kinds of awesome every time you visit my site.  The bad thing is that I’m changing platforms which means I’ll have to trouble you to change the URL in your RSS feed/reader (sorry!) but not right now because I’m still trying to figure out the technical details with my domain registrar.  I’ll definitely let you know when to make the move.

But let’s talk about this banner.  First, admit that it’s pretty wicked.  For a free online app and absolutely no photoshop/digital manipulation training, you have to agree that it looks pretty damn good.   I think the Christmas decorations gives it a nice, warm touch.  Second, I chose this theme and layout because this blog is/will be filled with my memories.  We take and frame pictures to capture moments we cherish and want to remember, so this blog is like a wall that will display my thoughts and memories as I write about my life and my goings-on.   The best thing about this layout?  those pictures can be replaced by others that reflect where I am in life or what season it is.  Forward thinking my friends, forward thinking.  I’m so clever I can hardly stand it.

Happy Birthday, Daddy

December 15, 2010
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Dear Daddy,

Happy birthday. I miss you so much.

Today you would have been 79 years old; an age that sounds old but I know that you would have been young at heart like you always were.  I haven’t forgotten about you but I try not to think about your absence; I try not to remember that you’re not here and haven’t been here since that terrible night in 2004.  I try not to think about these things not because I want to forget, but because I don’t want to remember that you passed; the knowing that we won’t see you walking through the door is just too hard and sad for me; for all of us.  Instead, I focus on the memories; on the joy that you brought to everyone’s life; the talks we had, the love you gave and your words of wisdom.  I haven’t visited you because seeing your gravestone makes me remember the things I don’t want to remember so I look at your pictures instead and tell Kayla all about you.  I tell Kayla about you; that you’re in heaven watching over her and us.

You were taken from us too soon and it makes me sad that you weren’t able to meet Kayla, Hanna or Max.  That’s the one thing we regret; that we didn’t have children sooner so they could get to know you and learn from you the way I did.  I will always carry that regret with me because I know you would have loved to be here, helping us raise Kayla.  I see the way mom and Kayla play together; the bond they share is so special and I wish that you were here too; to share that bond because there’s something truly magnificent and special between grandfather and granddaughter.  I’m sad that she’ll never be able to hear your voice, your laughter and learn the valuable lessons you taught me.

Kayla is growing so fast; she’s learning leaps and bounds and talks so much everyday.  I look at her and I see you and for that, I feel truly blessed to  be able to look at my daughter and see a man who taught me what it means to be a good person and an amazing parent.  Kayla  has a lot of your traits: the social personality, the humour and a zest for life, not to mention always wanting to make people laugh with her zany antics.

The holidays are not the same without you; actually, any family event is not the same without you.  In a lot of ways, when you passed, our excitement for things passed as well but we try and make do with what we have.  I’m sure everyone feels the same as me: we try not to remember that you’re not here but think about the times when things were better and we weren’t living with this void in our life; with this hole in our hearts.

Happy birthday, daddy; you are always missed and in our hearts and minds.

Winner of the December Awesomeness Giveaway!

December 14, 2010

My random name-picker was too busy playing with her balloon to take time away from such an important task to help me so I used the Random Generator to pick a winner of the December Awesomeness Giveaway.  I assigned each entrant a number from 1-7:

Maureen: 1, Ness: 2, Steph C: 3, Lisa: 4, Steph I.: 5, Elisse:  6, Karm: 7

The random generator produced this number:


Thanks to all who entered!

My last giveaway will be posted tonight and this one’s wicked awesome because it’s the last one that I’m probably going to have to I’m going all out.  Oh, you also get to reap the benefits of me being so into the Christmas spirit this year which means I’m in an extra giving mood!  Yay to free stuff!


Wine Party & Random Update

December 11, 2010
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Last night, I crashed stumbled into a wine party but not just any wine party; one that was being hosted on Twitter.  That’s right folks, people host “wine parties” on Twitter.  I had no idea these kinds of ‘parties’ were going on in Twitterdom much less realized how popular they are.  Basically, you randomly chat with people in this party – no invitation needed obviously, since I totally crashed the party – but you simply follow the #wineparty hash tag, respond to anything that tickles your fancy or just inject any thought or topic you want to chat about.  It’s like chat rooms are now with the times and have been updated to 2.0.  What’s great is that you also find a lot of funny blogs to follow as you’re watching the live updates and lurking other people’s blogs.

I’m not sure who started this but I have to admit, it’s pretty genius and fun.  Since I’m not the most social person, this type of wine party is perfect because like other geeky introverts, I can hide behind my computer and be all witty and funny at certain times without having to deal with those awkward conversation lulls or worry about offending anyone if I abruptly leave a conversation to join another.  Will I join again?  probably if I’m not busy on a Friday night.  If you want to join, it’s every Friday night at 8pm EST.


I’m not going to get into my tirade of how busy I am at work because I complain about that almost everyday.  However, I’m glad to announce that I’m almost done my Christmas shopping ahead of schedule and I couldn’t be more proud of myself!  I’m usually running around during the last few days before December 25 desperately trying to find decent gifts and dealing with my rage as I race against the other idiots out there who have issues with procrastination like me.  I’ve been spending an hour each night after Kayla goes to bed wrapping gifts and now, they’re sitting under the tree.  My only problem is that I now have to keep Kayla away from them since she assumes they’re all for her.  Every day she says: Santa’s going to come to my house if I’m a good girl.  Oh, and I’ve been using Santa as a form of discipline by stating that he leaves rocks for naughty kids and that all I’m going to say about that.

Photo Fridays: Work – The Good Ol’ Days

December 10, 2010

I’m usually a “don’t mix business with personal”‘ type of person; I just find it easier to keep things more private that way and seriously, do I want co-workers to know how I really am?  However, my old team was a little different.  Perhaps it’s because we’re of the same age group, same maturity level (read: immature) and have a twisted sense of humor.  We found hilarity in other people’s misfortunes and by that, I mean if one of us fell or tripped or made an ass out of ourselves, we found that hilarious and would keep finding ways to bring it up or better yet, reenact it.  It was a good camaraderie; we worked well together and always got the job done but we also slacked off really well too.  Most of our day – regardless if things were busy or not – involved a lot of silly pranks, off-color jokes, email hacking (you learned quick to lock your computer whenever you left your desk); hamburger throwing, timbit and/or gummy bear whipping, computer terrorizing, sumo wrestling, mocking, laughing, football throwing, destroying phone by banana smashing and laptop destroying good innocent fun.

Although we often screwed around in the office and pretended like everything wasn’t a big deal, we knew when we needed to put our heads down and work and when we could put things on the back-burner.  To be quite honest, we did prioritize our tasks even though everyone probably thought we were just a bunch of young punks who did nothing but fuck around in the office but it seemed that everyone buzzed about in a state of panic urgently asking for this or that  and our response would be something to the effect of chill guy.  I’m on it and then we’d turn around and resume our fuckery.  I can imagine the frustration that person felt when he didn’t see one of us jump on the computer and start typing away so needless to say, people didn’t like asking us for stuff.  It wasn’t our way of deterring people from approaching us for information but we knew what was important, how long it would take and most of the stuff requested was really easy and could be done in minutes.  We also knew certain people were always operating in a state of urgency and from experience, knew that if we killed ourselves fulfilling their request, it wouldn’t even be reviewed for like, 2 weeks so why bother jumping the gun, right?

Here are some (tame) examples of our fuckery:

Professional to clients/executives but crass to each other, it wasn’t uncommon to receive email replies  such as this.   That’s my response to an email which notes some functionality of a new system we were building.

Do you see Chairman Mao in the background?  This  is a picture of me when I supposedly visited my motherland and home of my peeps.   Of course, this was circulated to other team members before I saw it.  Or maybe I saw it on Facebook first I can’t remember.   Witness the abuse that I was often subjected to!   Racist jokes were the norm around the office and of course, there was a flurry of comments in Facebook after this was posted; most of which I caught after the fact and the joke had lost its moment.

Other activities we partook:

  • I once took a peeled banana and smashed it into my friend’s phone.  There are grills over the speakerphone which I made sure to smush banana into every part and that phone reeked like old banana for months
  • I picked off the keys off of my friend’s laptop and hid them.  You never know how important the Shift, Delete or Backspace keys are until they’re missing!  I also broke the Enter key by accident so he had to tape it down on the keyboard haha!
  • I opened my bottom drawer and found it full of bbq popcorn.  They felt no way for the contents in my drawer either so I had oil stains and bbq powder over everything
  • There was a mass of headless gummy bears hanging from the ceiling
  • I’m pretty sure some had bottles of vodka stashed in their drawer
  • hiding other people’s belongings somewhere else.  Or in some cases, their entire desk (including the desk)
  • bringing the toy Merlin into conference calls and when people would ask who joined the bridge, we would press the button that said “I AM MERLIN” and then laugh our asses off
  • accidentally hanging up the phone when someone was on a conference call.  Most of the time it was an accident because we never really thought that the football which we were using to aim at the END button would actually hit it
  • I walked into a conference room and found a hamburger bun stuck to the wall.  Three days later, it was still there
  • Colorful drawings and obscenities scrawled on the white boards which often had “P.L.O” (please leave on) written beside it
  • We decided to go on strike, blocked off our area with police tape, made someone Union Rep and funneled all requests through the Union Rep.  We made up request forms which had to be completed if you needed something done.  If you got approved, you could talk to us; if you got rejected, you had to submit another request.  I think the inbox may have been the recycling bin.  The funny thing was that people actually started filling out our “request forms” haha!
  • When we discovered Gizoogle, we renamed it The Shizzifier and shizzified everything – emails, work documents, presentations.   We did not like it when things weren’t shizzified.  I once shizzified a requirements document and sent it to an architect.  I thought it was hilarious; him… not so much
  • I turned on my laptop only to find the entire screen scribbled with permanent marker
  • One guy got a timbit whipped at his head so hard he walked around with a red welt on his neck for a whole day

Good times!

December Madness

December 9, 2010
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I haven’t had a chance to update in a few days because I’ve been swamped at work and the pressure of Christmas shopping is starting to get to me.  For the past few years, I’ve been pretty good at getting all of my shopping done way before Christmas but this year, work has prevented me from getting psyched up for shopping because after my day is done, I’m too spent to muster up some Christmas spirit and happily go shopping amidst the crazy Christmas shoppers.

But my determination has paid off; I’m about 90% done and all of them are wrapped.  It’s much better for my rage if I don’t tackle the mall on a weekend so instead, I took a couple hours in the evening to head out to the mall.  My first few attempts didn’t pan out so well but that was totally my fault:  I didn’t have my usual shopping strategy (read:  specific list of gifts to get for specific people) and instead, I wandered around aimlessly, getting angry after 30 minutes and leaving empty-handed.  I only have a few more people left but at least now, I don’t feel as pressured to get everything done now and I can relax a little.   I even went out and printed a bunch of Christmas cards this year; instead of making them like I usually do, I wanted to print a picture of Kayla and send it out because, well,  let’s just face it-  she’s the most adorable little person ever.  I think I’ll ask her to sign each card (which translates to scribbles with a marker) and I know she’d love to do it since she’s always asking me to color with her.

On the work front, my project is kicking my butt.  Shit, I haven’t been this busy in years; then again, I haven’t worked on a project as large as this in a years.  I’ve been too used to cruising and procrastinating so it’s taken a while for me to adjust to actually having to work and use my brain at the office.   I’m on the computer for so many hours at work that when I get home, I don’t even want to go near my laptop hence, the lack of posts.  The only reason why I’m posting now is because I’m in the office early, I don’t want to start my work and I’m sitting here looking at a pile of Christmas cards I have to address and probably won’t want to do them when I get home so I’m going to do them now.